God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Big Book on Resentments... Page 552, 4th Edition

Just typed this up for a friend, and since I had it transcribed, thought I would share it here as well...  has worked well so far for me, too.

"'If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free. Even when you don't really want it for them and your prayers are only words and you don't mean it, go ahead and do it anyway. Do it everyday for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate, understanding and love.'

It worked for me then, and it has worked for me many times since, and it will work for me every time I am willing to work it. Sometimes I have to ask first for the willingness, but it always comes. And because it works for me, it will work for all of us. As another great man says, 'The only real freedom a human being can ever know is doing what you ought to do because you want to do it.'"

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Anonymous said...

The Next Right Thing... I am the victim of a mob attack and in my first Thirty Days... The rage and hate is in me... And so is the very Hope of page 552. Thx... Rob

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Anonymous said...

What a crock. AA does not work. It only has a five percent success rate. The same as quitting on yor own.

Anonymous said...

AA sticks with you for life whether you continue to drink or not. AA & the Fellowship saved my life. It is not a crock. I am just a tiny seed of AA but I am blossoming into a better person because of the Program of AA. I am one less person who will be causing havic on your streets or being taken care of by your tax $$. I don't know if your 5% satistics are correct or not, but out of millions of people that is a lot of people who are greatful for anything that Works. Maybe you should join some kind of Programs that works for you so you won't be so bitter towards something that can help change lifes for the better.

Anonymous said...

AA sticks with you for life whether you continue to drink or not. AA & the Fellowship saved my life. It is not a crock. I am just a tiny seed of AA but I am blossoming into a better person because of the Program of AA. I am one less person who will be causing havic on your streets or being taken care of by your tax $$. I don't know if your 5% satistics are correct or not, but out of millions of people that is a lot of people who are greatful for anything that Works. Maybe you should join some kind of Programs that works for you so you won't be so bitter towards something that can help change lifes for the better.

Anonymous said...

I have lost 4 very close loved ones to suicide because of their drug & alcohol use. Maybe if they would.have tried A.A. their lives wouldn't have ended so tragic. Anonymouse Crock maybe yoou should attened an A.A. Convention some time & see how A.A. changed thousands of lives. Try reading page 552-553 for two weeks for your rensentments towards others & A.A. and maybe it will help with your attitude towards something that can & will help others.

Anonymous said...

To those that say AA doesn't work, I'd ask "Did you work AA?" Did you study the basic text? Did you work all 12 steps? Did you use a Sponsor? Were you Honest?

Anonymous said...

lol, yeah but for us 5% it's Awesome! If you don't like it, try another method.

Curbing resentment is one of the biigest challenges I think, not just for alcoholics but everyone. Of course with us Alcoholics, it turns into these ruthless snatching narcissists and next thing we know we're hurting those we love. This method has worked for me from experience, but let's face it - if somebody else DID get what I wanted in life, especially after I prayed for it, I'd have a new resentment all over again!

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Anonymous said...

Thanks for posting this.. I recently heard someone refer to this page in the Big Book & hope that I can learn to apply it everyday in my life. Not until coming into the program did I realize how angry & resentful I really was/ am if I don't active work on it.

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tripletaurus said...

I don't really worry about if AA works or not. I personally find that when I have worked the steps I feel better and when I don't work them things build up. That even applies to the years when I left AA and was drinking and substituted people places and things for alcohol in step 1. I used to drive my old sponsor nuts by writing up an inventory when I couldn't let go of something and read it to him in the bar he owned over a glass of red wine. Right now I am not drinking and using the steps and find things improving but needed to read this because I was developing resentments with other strong personalities at meetings and at home. Thank you for posting this.

Anonymous said...

To those people who say AA doesn't work or doesn't work because....! are the one's refusing to admit the truth or existence of the truth.

The plain fact is this if ONE person has stayed sober and followed the steps then it works!

Sober since Nov 15th 1988 (one day at a time)

Anonymous said...

May I remind all who read here:
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Chapter 5
HOW IT WORKS
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of be­ ing honest with themselves. There are such unfortu­
nates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasp­ing and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if
they have the capacity to be honest.

All this poses a very simple question: Are you honest yet?

Sober since Nov 15th 1988 (one day at a time)+

Anonymous said...

The five percent rationale is a typical cognitive behavioral argument against something that they can't and don't want to understand. I submit that anyone that honestly seeks God is 100% "recovered" and has hope for the future regardless of how successful they are at not using alcohol ever again in their life.

Anonymous said...

AA is not just a meeting.. or the steps on the wall.. or the book that you read.. or finding a higher power. AA is all of these things combined and sponsorship. And an honest admittance to defeat and powerlessness. Rhe reason it works for so few is because very few are willing to do what it takes and CONTINUE to do what it takes. Honesty. Openmindedness. Willingness. I have a greater life then I deserve today thanks to AA. It only works if you work it. ALL OF IT. thank god for AA.

Anonymous said...

I tried everything on my own power and came up with....Nothing! ...Prayer changed everything....unless you enjoy swimming and suffering in your mess....God will let you until you ask for his help....

made23 said...

I love when people say AA don't work ...it doesn't you have to take some steps in order for it to work in your life

Anonymous said...

AA saved my life...no doubt!